Elizabeth Bird (librarian, author, blogger) asked me to contribute to her upcoming anthology FUNNY GIRL. For the announcement, she wanted me to write a sentence or two about being funny and being a girl and a writer or whatever, and yeah, I got carried away. Here’s the stuff I sent her that was obv too long for her announcement article.
While there are moments of humor in my first two books (Goose Girl & Enna Burning), no one would rightly call these comedies. When I was writing Princess Academy, I remember going to NYC for something and having a meeting with my editor and publicist. They'd read an early draft of Princess Academy. They both said, "We've been talking about how funny you are in person but how that doesn't come out in your books. Is there room for humor in this book? Is Miri funny?" And I thought, well, yeah, she is. She would totally use humor to defuse tension. So why hadn't I written that? The truth is I think I'd bought into the idea that "girls aren't funny." I heard that hundreds of times growing up. And again as adults, with regards to movies especially: "women aren't funny." I'd swallowed the party line without realizing it. But I was beginning to question it. Are we really not funny? Not as funny as the guys? Or do people assume we're not so don't notice when we are? The answer is clearly yes since I’m hysterical.
Ten of my twenty published books could be considered comedies, and yet I've never heard myself referred to as a comedic writer. TEN BOOKS. Never been invited on a humor book panel (those are for man writers). And the books that I co-write with my husband (Rapunzel's Revenge, Princess in Black) people always assume the funny parts are his. Hundreds of times people have pointed out parts that made them laugh and then asked, "Did Dean write that?" And most of the time, I had. Make no mistake, he is very funny and witty and clever. Too.
Here's a little story. Fifteen years ago when Dean and I were getting married, we made a wedding website. One night at a get together with our old group of friends:
Mike: "Dean, I loved your wedding website. It was really funny. I kept laughing out loud."
Me: "Well, you know, he built the site but I wrote the content."
Mike: nods "You typed it?"
Me: "I wrote it."
Mike: "You typed it up for him?"
Me: "No. I wrote it."
Mike: "You helped him write it?"
Me: "No, I came up with the words and put them together in sentences and wrote them down."
He was still so stumped. It took several more exchanges for him to get it. Later he returned.
Mike: "I guess I've just always thought of Dean as the writer."
Me: "I just received my MFA in Creative Writing."
He returned later yet again.
Mike: "I guess with couples, we're used to just thinking that one of them is the funny one."
Me: "You and I were in an improv comedy troupe together."
Mike is a wonderful human being and open-minded and a feminist and we're still very close. And believe me, he's been teased about this mercilessly by all of us for over a decade. But this is how deep the "girls aren't funny" idea runs. Even when presented with direct evidence, so many people can't see it! They keep seeing what they've been taught to believe.
So why does it matter? Why do kids need to see/hear/read women being funny? And hear adults acknowledging that they are funny? Because stereotypes shut down possibilities. The "class clown" is a boy. The actually truly funny girls in class are just "obnoxious" or "attention-seekers." Boys who are funny are encouraged, laughed, cheered. Girls who are funny are told to behave, shush, sit down. Comedy is a gift to humanity. How sad and pointless life would be without good laughs. We need to see girls being funny, encourage them to develop their sense of humor, reward them for the cleverness and intelligence it takes to make jokes. They'll be happier, more fulfilled human beings. And so will we. The more comedy the better!
Have you gotten the "women aren't funny because men evolved the ability to be funny to win them a mate" line?
Posted by: katz | May 04, 2015 at 10:59 AM
That's odd . . . I worked hard in the family to become funny, intentionally. Unintentionally I was told that I was a funny kid. Maybe it depends on the atmosphere from the family, because I saw that the person who told the best jokes got the highest attention.
Posted by: Jaya Lakshmi | May 04, 2015 at 02:54 PM
Many funny girls Shannon’s written:
Enna: Shortened Razo’s stirrups, dumped a bucket of mush on his head, yelled, “The orange egg of the omen” to the whole city. Hilarious.
Miri: I was ashamed of being ashamed. Marda, I hope you’re not ashamed of me for being ashamed. If so, shame on you. Or on me? Which is logical?
Britta: I’d give them the rings from my fingers and the shoes from my feet. Though I don’t know why anyone would want the shoes from my feet. They probably wouldn’t fit.
Maddie: “A dead fish! No, wait, it’s alive, better put it back.”
Briar: “Come on, this way looks fun!” (nearly leaping off a cliff).
I’m writing a book where the main character is very funny and in fact a girl. She’s always joking, making funny faces, overall being very amusing.
I think this has something to do with the society we’re in. There’s a reason this country has never had a female president in its two hundred and forty years. It’s the way society looks at women. I mean, there are little countries in the Baltic, Latvia and Lithuania, who have only been around for 25 years, and they’ve already had female presidents.
Once I had been part of a figure skating forum (I love figure skating). We were discussing the tricks the skaters did. I said I wanted to see more tricks out of the girls, and everyone said, “That’ll wreck the beauty of the sport.” But they all picked on the guy I liked because he didn’t do as many tricks as the other guys.
They were saying that it’s the men’s jobs to jump and do big things, and it’s the women’s jobs to look beautiful in fluffy princess costumes and spin around like ballerinas on ice.
For those of you who don’t think women can be funny, tune in to The Ellen Show. (By the way, doesn’t Ellen share her birthday with Shannon? : D). Funny folk are born on January 26.
Maybe I should stop my little feminist ranting before I get out of control.
Posted by: Jessica | May 04, 2015 at 09:01 PM
As I was growing up, the comment my dad made about me more than any other was, "Don't laugh at her. It will only encourage her". Well they laughed anyway, and I was encouraged. Here is to all of the funny women in the world! Yay, us!
Posted by: Diane WoMc | May 04, 2015 at 09:18 PM
I frequently laugh in your books, and probably laughed the hardest I have ever laughed while reading a book (and I've read a ton) while reading Austenland. Something about that ninja line just cracked me up. You are my kind of funny.
Posted by: Jahnelle | May 05, 2015 at 12:04 PM
You and Sophie Kinsella are tied for my funniest author award. I nearly died laughing in Dangerous when she ate the shark. "So I ate it." SO funny. Actually, reading your books has helped me to embrace my own funny side, and I write a humor article for a local magazine every month. Humor is a tough genre to write and to be consistently funny on demand, so kudos to you and your talent!
In my current (and first) novel, it's not really a comedy, but I try to incorporate enough humor to keep my readers cracking a smile. I do have an idea for one comedy up my sleeve that I can't WAIT to write! Thanks for inspiring me!
Posted by: Kasey | May 05, 2015 at 06:57 PM
Yeah, I loved when Maisie ate the shark too.
I really like Maddie in the Ever After High books.
And Enna. She's just like me : D.
Ooh, and don't forget about sweet little Miri.
I haven't read Austenland yet but the tidbits i've gotten were hilarious.
I love you, funny girl Shannon.
Posted by: Jessica | May 05, 2015 at 08:14 PM